What To Do When A Virgo Man Goes Silent Or Distant (2023)

There is nothing worse than when a Virgo man goes silent and ignores you. This is such a painful experience to have to go through, especially when you are so deeply in love with this person and just want the relationship to work out!

There could be many reasons why your Virgo man is ignoring you, so don’t beat yourself up thinking about why your Virgo man is silent. It might not be what you think at all!

Let us explore all the reasons why a Virgo man could be silent and what exactly you can do about it. Continue reading if you would like to find out more information about why a Virgo man tends to go silent!

When A Virgo Man Goes Silent – Reasons Why A Virgo Man Is Ignoring You?

He’s Busy With Work

There are many reasons why a Virgo man could be going silent on you, and the one you least have to worry about is when a Virgo man gets busy he tends to block out the rest of the world and only focus on the task at hand.

This doesn’t mean you did something wrong; it just means that temporarily his attention is a little more distracted than usual. This has nothing to do with you and it is important that you don’t take your Virgo man going silent too personally. He’ll come back to you when everything else in his life calms down!

He Might Be Hurt By Something You Did Or Said

A Virgo man ignoring you after an argument is quite normal, he just needs his own time and space to think about what happened between the two of you.

When a Virgo man is hurt, he may distance himself from you, and this is a normal reaction for anyone when they are coming to terms with their feelings. Although a Virgo man might not seem it, because he can be so critical at times, he is actually incredibly sensitive.

He dishes it out, but he isn’t very good at taking the same kind of heat. You’ll need to be careful of how you talk to him, but by all means, always be truthful with him. He is a human lie detector of sorts and will always know when you are somehow faking it. An angry Virgo man is not a pleasure to be around – trust me!

The man can spot a lie fairly easily. He knows you, he knows your behavior, and he knows when you’re being honest or if you’re being a bit shady. He is very observant and probably one of the most perceptive signs in the Zodiac.

If you made a slight against your Virgo man but didn’t mean it, then apologize to him. He may not feel like everything is okay right away, but at some point, if he knows you are sincere with your apology, then he’ll work past it and forgive you.

However, if you’ve done something really hurtful, then he may be less inclined to forgive you. I’m not saying it’s impossible for him to forgive you, but it may take him significant time to get past it. If he doesn’t, then he may just break it off.

He Needs Time And Personal Space

How long a Virgo man stays mad is up to the individual and the situation itself. Who knows, he may not be angry at you at all. He just wants his space to figure things out in his own head.

There are times where the Virgo man is distant and seems as though he is being cold toward you. If he doesn’t text you back or at all, it may seem like he either isn’t interested or is upset.

The thing is, sometimes he needs a bit of personal freedom to keep in perspective who he is and that he is not being controlled. This will mean he shuts off from you in order to get this.

If you have pressured him in any way then this may definitely be the case. If you haven’t been pushing and he does this, then he’s just flexing his freedom muscle. There’s no need to worry.

As long as he’s still spending time with you and showing you that he cares, then pulling back from time to time is a very normal thing for the Virgo man. Be careful not to harass him about it or he will ultimately lose interest in you.

He Isn’t Feeling It With You

Alas, another reason why a Virgo is distant from you is due to his lack of interest to have a relationship with you. Sometimes they come on hot and heavy at the beginning, once he finally agrees to date you.

Then suddenly he pulls back and you have no clue what in the heck happened! He found something about you that he likely doesn’t like and doesn’t think that it’s something that can be changed and it immediately turns him around.

He is looking for the perfect woman and when he finds problems or differences that he feels aren’t fixable or that he doesn’t want to address them, then he’ll just bail out completely. He may not want to hurt your feelings and avoid telling you what it is.

Virgo men are a lot of work and maintenance. They can be worth it though if you stick it out with them. Just keep in mind that if the Virgo man is distant still and you don’t hear from him for a significant amount of time, then he’s probably done.

He Likes The Thrill Of The Chase

Virgo men do not like to feel oppressed or pressured. However, they also want a partner that can keep up with them. So sometimes after they’ve pursued you, they’ll pull back a little to see what you will do.

Will you chase after him or will you be calm and wait for him to reach out? The answer is: find the middle ground. If you don’t reply, he’ll think you aren’t that interested, thus, he will consider it over.

If you reach out too much via text or social media, he’ll feel as though you are putting pressure on him to reply. In order to make things flow reasonably well, go down the middle.

You can text him: “Hey, thinking about you,” and then leave it alone. He may reply and he may not, but regardless he got the message. He’ll get back to you when he wants to and as long as you don’t freak out, he’ll probably want to spend time together.

The very best thing you can do is remain calm with the Virgo man. Find out what it is that upset him and do your best to let him know you didn’t mean to hurt him or make him angry.

Virgo Men And Anger – How Do They Deal With It?

He’s Angry With You

In the event that you’ve managed to do something to piss a Virgo man off, you need to handle it the same way as if you hurt him. If it’s something that you know you shouldn’t have done or said, make sure to apologize to him immediately. A Virgo man will see reason if you find the right way to apologize to him.

It will take him a bit to cool back off and start seeing things normally again. He will be watching your behavior when you say you’re sorry to see if you’re being truthful or not. You had better be, or you may lose him.

The Virgo man often will put up with a lot from the woman he truly loves and is committed to but everyone has their limits. Lying will get you dismissed. It may not be right away, but it will happen.

Again, if you find that he’s really pissed off at you, just apologize then back off to let him process it and cool off. Unless, of course, he asks you to stay so you two can talk about it more. Respectfully agree to his wishes and get it out so you can work past it.

So, if the Virgo man is distant, it will make him less so.

What To Do When A Virgo Man Is Hurt

A Virgo man may act quite strangely when his feelings are hurt. A Virgo man will go distant and start ignoring you for a while, this is at least until he has sorted out through his emotions and can think about them rationally again.

He might be feeling all kinds of emotions like sadness, jealousy, and betrayal. Of course, all of this depends on the situation and how badly he feels about it. There is no sure way to know if a Virgo man is going distant because of something you did.

Just be patient and let the information come to you. This is when you need to pull back a bit with your energy and let it go. There is no point in trying to control the situation when a Virgo man goes distant.

What Can You Do When A Virgo Man Goes Distant?

The best thing you can do when a Virgo man goes distant is to be patient. He’s one of those guys who always has a lot on his mind. We can blame good old Mercury for being the ruler of his sign.

This planet will cause your Virgo man to become quite nervous, neurotic, and anxious at times. He will be thinking about a million things simultaneously, so giving him the space he needs is important so he can sort out his feelings rationally.

If you keep texting a Virgo man about where he is and what he is up to he may start to feel the pressure, and this is no good. Give him the space to breathe and forgive you all in his own time.

When a Virgo man keeps blowing hot and cold, you can try any of these tips and I am sure this will help you to get your Virgo man to stop ignoring you. It might just take a little bit of elbow grease to get you where you want to be!

5 Ways To Respond When A Virgo Man Ignores You

1. The “Cave” Method

This is all about giving the Virgo man in your life some space. Virgo men often have empathic energy, and they absorb too much of what is going on around them. They may just need a break from it all. This is when your Virgo man tends to go distant.

It’s likely he’s ignoring you simply because he’s busy in his “cave” doing his own thing.

If you think this could be the case, it’s best just to give him his space — your own personal “cave” method. Give the man some room, and he should come running back to you after a few days or weeks.

However, if you haven’t heard from him at all after a few weeks, you need to drop him a simple message like: “Hey, I haven’t heard from you for a while, is everything okay ??”

That’s simple and easy and should warrant an answer.

2. The “Doll-Me-Up” Method

There’s a sad truth about Virgos (one they share with Libras), and that is if you don’t look good, they will often lose interest.

It does not mean you have to be tall and thin a la Kendall Jenner or have flawless curves like J-Lo. However, your Virgo man needs to see you put some effort into the way you look, especially when you are with him, otherwise, he may start ignoring you in favor of finding someone who looks after herself better.

I know, that’s a hard pill to swallow, but you have to make the effort. If you can’t get your hair and nails done, that’s okay! Give yourself an at-home mani-pedi, and wash and condition your hair with something sweet-smelling that leaves it soft and tangle-free.

Your clothes don’t need to be expensive — they just have to fit well and look good. A little bit of aerobic exercise every morning won’t hurt either. Buy a perfume that you love and is affordable, and spray on just a touch before you see him.

Taking care of yourself will feel great, and your Virgo man will start noticing the difference, too — even if he doesn’t say anything. This is a super empowering way to get your Virgo man to stop ignoring you!

3. The “Humble” Method

Perhaps your Virgo man is ignoring you because you had a big fight and you went a bit over the top and said or did something particularly cruel and now your Virgo man is mad!

If this happens, it’s almost like a lightning bolt has just struck the relationship, and you both need time to recover.

However, it’s really important to let go of your ego, become humble, and call him. You need to apologize and let him know that you were in the wrong (if you were) and explain that you won’t let it happen again.

BUT, if you cheated on him, not only did you hurt his pride, but he now looks at you differently — like you’re promiscuous — and that’s a big deal to a Virgo. In order to patch that one up, you need to give him a few weeks of alone time, and then sincerely apologize.

If he is in love with you, he should forgive you, but a part of his heart will always be broken, so hopefully, you never end up in this situation! It can take a really long time for your Virgo man to get over this one!

4. The “Social Media Fun” Method

If you find that your Virgo man is ignoring you, simply go out and “get a life” and show what you are doing the best way you know how — through social media.

If he is connected to you through Instagram and Facebook, that’s great!

You need to look your best, get together with friends, go to the gym, go dancing, read a fantastic book, watch a fabulous Netflix series, start cooking — and post ALL of this.

When he sees you having a lot of fun, he is going to feel like he is missing out, and you’ll probably hear from him shortly.

Two tips, though: don’t overdo it by posting multiple times a day, and be careful when posting pictures of you with other guys (make sure the pictures don’t look sexual in any way).

If it’s just you and a good-looking male friend laughing over an innocent lunch, your Virgo man is going to feel a twang of jealousy and will probably contact you very soon!

5. The “Good Communication” Method

Sure, if your Virgo man is ignoring you, it can really hurt. But sometimes, the best thing to do is just have an open conversation with him about it. Remember your Virgo man is mercurial, he enjoys a good conversation and being able to problem solve!

However, don’t do this straight away; wait at least seven days before reaching out to him because you want to give him the space to breathe and figure out how he is feeling.

DON’T lay it all out over text or give him the ominous “we need to talk.” This is one phrase that will make him run a million miles away — FAST!

Instead, send him a gentle message like: “Hey, I haven’t seen you in a while, and I would love to catch up. Can I come over?”

If he says yes, go over there and settle down and relax. Once relaxed, you can just mention to him that you have noticed that he’s gone really quiet, and you would just like to know what’s going on.

Let him speak without interrupting, and listen to everything he has to say. Hopefully, everything is good and he just needs time.

Communication is key in any relationship, especially with Virgos, who are known for sometimes thinking the worst or dealing with anxiety.

Maybe he just needed to hear that you really cared for him and missed him. If so, he’ll be back in your arms in no time!

Well, there you have it — the best ways to respond when a Virgo man ignores you. Your relationship should be back on track any day now! Just continue trying out a bunch of my methods, but also remember when to let go.

Being with a Virgo man can be a lot of fun!

These men are some of the most desirable in the whole Zodiac.

So, it makes sense why you are so drawn to your Virgo man!

However, it is such a pity that recently it seems like he is trying to actively avoid you…

Whenever you reach out and try to speak to him you are met with silence or short replies…

The faster he pulls away the more it just breaks your heart.

You just can’t seem to understand why your Virgo man keeps ignoring you…

You are sure that you didn’t do something wrong!

And when you ask him, he says it’s nothing.

But you know deep down in your gut that this just isn’t true…

He is pulling away, and you know it…

If only there was something you could do to repair the relationship to its former glory…

You would do anything in the world to have your Virgo man look at you the way he once did…

You love him with all your heart and you want to fix what is broken.

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There are definitely ways that you can turn all of this around and make your Virgo man putty in your hands.

However, you need to be ready to commit to this change, because once it has been made then there is no going back.

There is so much you still have to learn about Virgo men and the way they respond to love and romance.

And you deserve to know this information because it can be invaluable in the way you show up in your relationships.

The relationship you have always wanted is at your fingertips…

It just depends on you if you are ready to reach out and grab it!

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Wishing you so much love and happiness.

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach